Monthly Archives: December 2015

Sorry, Oprah, I Love Who I Am

I know it’s January, and this is the time of year where there are so many commercials  and ads everywhere telling people to just buy their stuff and they can LOSE WEIGHT!  They can start their New Year finally earning the right to BE HAPPY if they would just buy their weight loss program, gym program, or supplement.  Of course, you must START ON JANUARY 1st! because you can’t possibly have a good year if you don’t LOSE WEIGHT NOW!

One commercial I saw that really made me stop and think was the Oprah commercial I just saw.  Oprah says that if I just join Weight Watchers (a company that she just bought a 10%  interest into) that I can BE THE WOMAN I KNOW I CAN BE.

Actually, she says, “Inside every overweight woman, is a woman she knows she can be”

She’s right, but she’s so wrong.   What she should have said is:

  • Inside every person is the voice that tells them to SHUT OUT the voices of others telling them that they needs to change to be worthy.
  • Inside every person is the TRUTH that they are good enough, right now, just as they is.
  • Inside every person is the knowledge that her body isn’t the only thing of value that they have.  They knows they’re worth far more than the size of their jeans.
  • Inside every person is the person who is stronger than they thinks, more beautiful than they believe and braver than they know.

She also said

“Many times you look in the mirror and you don’t even recognize your own self because you got lost, buried, in the weight that you carry”

She’s right, because we, as a society have said that the only thing that matters  is to be thin- someone else’s version of “beautiful”.  It’s not just WOMEN who are told they need to be thin, or muscular or have a full head of hair  or look a certain way to be worthy. Men are fed the same bull every day.  When  the majority of the country is above a size 14, why do we continue to buy into this crap?

I was lost, nearly hopelessly so, because I listened to the people and voice that told me that I had no value because I was fat.  The extra weight on my body didn’t hold me down nearly as much as the weight of the words that people spewed at me.  The heaviest weight I carried was other peoples hatred and disdain simply because I wore bigger clothes than them. I may only be 17, but I do know which one of those nearly broke me.

butterfly change

It’s January. It’s a natural time to make “resolutions”  If you want to lose weight in the incoming year to become healthier, then do it. I am.  But I am also resolving to be a better friend, to continue to help stop bullying, and most of all to help other people, men and woman, know that inside each and every one of them is a TRUTH.

You’re special- just the way you are. You ARE the person you know you can be, right now.  You don’t have to wait for a New Year, or to lose weight, or for anything else to love yourself.

You need to love yourself, now.  You deserve it.