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What I Want To Tell You About Being Bullied

I want to tell you about being bullied.

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I want to tell you that no matter who you are, what you weigh, what you look like, or  how popular or unpopular you are, you can be a target for bullying.

I want to tell you that someone who used to be your friend can turn  into your enemy.

I want to tell you that you can learn not to trust anyone.

I want to tell you that  you can be so scared of being bullied at school that you can get sick every single day.

I want to tell you that when you go to teachers for help, and they tell you they can’t help you unless they see it, that you become defeated.

I want to tell you that depression and cutting are real effects of bullying.

I want to tell you that school can become your own personal hell.

I want to tell you the internet can become your own personal hell, too.

I want to tell you that you can feel completely alone in the world, even when you are surrounded by people.

I want to tell you that  all those words that people throw at your eventually work their way into your brain and you begin to believe them.

I want to tell you that you can honestly believe that ending your life is the only way to escape the bullying.

But, I also want to tell you a few other things about bullying.

I want to tell you that when you hit the lowest point you can go, there can be people to help you up.  I want you to know you do not have to believe those voices in your head, and you can change what they say. I want you to know that you CAN and WILL get through bullying. Because you are a wonderful person who is worthy of love, acceptance and happiness, and it will come. I want you to know it won’t be forever.

I want to tell you to #BeBrave.  You can get through bullying. I want you to know that you can learn to be brave and stand up to the bullies – and stand up for yourself.  I want to tell you that I, and many other people will help you.

 

I wrote this post in response to my Mom’s post about How It Feels To Be The Mom of Bullied Kids. It was powerful.  Bullying effects the whole family, not just the ones being bullied.

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Ugly Stupid Bad Girl.

12180071_490438061127724_109177207_nThat is the note you got in school today, from someone you thought was your friend. I know how sad that made you.   It made me sad to even see that note. You see, the person who wrote that note couldn’t be more wrong.

Our Moms are friends, and my Mom shares with me the photos that your Mom posts. She shares because  she tells me all the time that you remind her of me when I was 7.

  • When I was 7, I loved to smile BIG, just like you!
  • When I was 7, I to play on the swings, just like you!
  • When I was 7, I loved to do my hair in all kinds of cool styles, just like you.
  • When I was 7, I liked to play with my brother, just like you.
  • When I was 7, I got a mean note from a bully, just like you.

But, sweetheart, right now is when you and I are going to change a little,ok?

When I was 7, I believed what the bullies said about me, and that  was WRONG.

I was NOT a lazy, ugly, stupid, fat cow that no one wanted to be friends with. I just had bullies that said so. But because people told me so, I believed it.

So I have something to tell you.

DO NOT BELIEVE THEM.  You are NOT a Stupid, Ugly, Bad Girl .  You are a Smart, Beautiful, Wonderful Girl who has so much to offer and so many gifts!    I know that you love to play with your brothers, and you spend a lot of time with your Mom and Dad and I know that you are kind, and loving and a person that LOTS of people want to be friends with .

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I want you to know that even at 7, you can #BeBrave and stand up for yourself. You are a brave girl who will learn that sometimes, people aren’t nice and they say mean things that are not true.

I want you to know that I will #BeBrave for you, too, and I will stand up for you and WITH you and let you know that at 7, the bullies do not have the right to make you feel badly about yourself. YOU have the power to tell that bully to go away, and to stop telling you those things.  I know that there are a lot of people who will help you, too.

You and I are so much alike.  Sadly, we both have bullying in common. But  always remember that we also have our bravery, too.  That is so much stronger.


October Is Bullying Prevention Month

October is one of my favorite months for many reasons. The beautiful leaves, pumpkin spice everything, pumpkins, apple cider, Halloween… But that’s not the most important part.

October is Bullying Prevention Month!

Now I believe that we should raise awareness and try to end bullying all month of the year, but October is especially special because everyone else is aware of it as well. This month I’m going to be talking about this issue, not only on my blog but I will be doing Blabs, Instagram, making YouTube videos and talking on Twitter, as well as talking to people in person as well.

I will also continue to talk about bullying every month of my life, until it’s not a problem anymore. Bullying is a problem because people really don’t understand the severity of it.

People kill themselves and self harm and have depression and other mental illnesses that follow them their entire lives because of bullying.

We as a society continue to brush it off, and I don’t want to live like this anymore. I don’t want to live in a world where bullying someone is funny and acceptable. I know it’s hard to make a change in this world but I believe I can do it, and you can as well if we just Be Brave.

So let’s stand up to bullying this month. But let’s stand up to it the rest of the year, too!

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