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Monthly Archives: August 2014
I’ve been a One Direction fan for years now, and a couple weeks ago I FINALLY got to see them preform! On August 7th, my friend and I drove up to Foxboro, Massachusetts to see the Where We Are tour at Gillette Stadium. We not only got to see them on the 7th, but August 8th and 9th as well! I can easily say that those 3 days were the best 3 days of my life. I want to share some of that joy with YOU! By giving away an Ultimate Fan Pack! (but don’t forget to read how awesome my concerts were!)
The Ultimate Fan Pack includes: VIP Fan bag from the stadium, including One Direction Tank Top, 1D watch with exclusive bag, and lip balm. Also, Our Moment Perfume, Where We Are book , This is Us dvd, and Midnight Memories cd. Everything for a One Direction Fan wants!
We got to the stadium at around 2 PM to start filming my video, 60 Reasons Why We Love One Direction. I have to say, meeting the other fans was one of my favorite parts. I heard so many stories on how these boys affected the lives of their fans. It was an amazing atmosphere, because it felt like we were all almost connected to each other. Everyone there loved this band, just like I did. Everyone I talked to had been affected by One Direction in a positive way. They had even saved lives.
One Direction may just be a boy band to you, and that’s fine. But to their fans, they are so much more. They’re heroes, reasons to live, inspiration… It may seem silly, that 5 singing boys have such an effect on us, but they do. Harry, Liam, Louis, Niall, and Zayn have changed the lives of millions of people worldwide. While I sat in Gillette Stadium, I had a big realization. It was not just my friends and I that had been so greatly affected by this band. There were over 68,000 people in that stadium, whose lives had been changed by these boys. I saw people screaming from getting waved, crying from getting a kiss blown at them, even sobbing just from listening to the music.
On August 7th, I sat in section 313, and I had an amazing view of the entire stadium. It was surreal to see just how many people were there to see One Direction. I could see almost everything and I had an amazing time. On August 8th, I sat on the floor, right next to the B Stage. It was absolutely amazing. The confetti popped out right over our heads during “Happily”, and the boys were down there for a long period of time. My favorite night though, was August 9th. I sat right next to the main stage, and where they sat to sing the slower songs. It was so surreal to see my idols directly in front of me, singing the songs I’ve listened to in my bedroom for years. I did get waves, and kisses blown at me, and I might have screamed a little, not going to lie. Those 3 nights were the best of my life.
Thank you to One Direction, for helping not only me, but millions of fans throughout the years. Thank you for helping us feel beautiful, for inspiring us to go for our dreams, for helping us not feel so alone.
When you’ve been bullied in the past, the first day of school isn’t usually exciting, In fact, it can be terrifying! It’s hard to walk back in the “lion’s den”, but there are a few things to do that can make it a little bit easier.
Reach out and find new friends- If you had a hard time making friends in your classes last year, this year is a great way to get a fresh start. There are more and different people in your classes this year, which proves for more opportunities to make new friends. Don’t stay hidden behind your books, talk! Answer questions in class, engage in classroom discussions. Try to talk to the people around you as well. It doesn’t have to be a full blown conversation at first. Ask for a pencil, or give a compliment. Open yourself up to new friendships. Talk to the people you get partnered with. Find a kindred soul. Love art? Check out the after school art opportunities in your class. Love to sing? Is there a drama program you can join? You’d be surprised at the people who belong to groups that you don’t know. Look to grades above you and below you, as well.
Find someone to trust at school.- If you’ve been bullied in your past school years and you’re uncomfortable at school, find someone you trust. It doesn’t have to be someone in your grade. There are great people to talk to in guidance centers about daily problems at school. You could also find a teacher you really trust to reach out to. Teachers are there to be educators and supporters. It’s also a good idea to have your parents reach out to administrators and teachers about your past experiences so that they are aware of people and things to watch out for. You have a right to be at school and to be in a safe environment.
Learn how to #BeBrave – Being Brave is a simplified version of how to end bullying.
To Be Brave, you have to stand up FOR the bullied, FOR yourself, and TO the bullies.
It’s not always easy. in fact, it can be hard, but I promise you one thing, once you stand up to those who are bullying you and refuse to accept their behavior, they will leave you alone. If you stand up and report their actions, they will leave you alone, eventually. Most schools have anti-bullying policies in place and are cited in their handbooks. Get to know those rules. One of the hardest things I ever did was decided to Be Brave for myself, but it saved me.
You may have had a hard time in the past, but you deserve to have a bully free school year. YOU DESERVE to enjoy school. You may not become a popular kid, but you certainly can take steps to comfortable in school. Take risks, talk to people you normally wouldn’t talk to. Raise your hand. Show confidence! Don’t let the bullies bring you down. Stand up for yourself. If you see someone else getting bullied, stand up for them as well. Make friends and be there for other people who get bullied. If you band together, the bullies have no power.
I was sad when I first heard of Robin Williams death. What I most remember him for was his role in The Dead Poets Society. His role as John Keating was inspiring as that of a teacher who supported and was there for others. When I heard that his death was an alleged suicide due to depression, I was even sadder. I was hearing a lot of chatter of people asking, “What could he have to be depressed about? He had it all!”
People don’t think rich, famous, funny people can suffer from depression. But they can. I know from experience that sometimes the ones who seem like they have the most going for them can be holding on by the slimmest threads.
Depression doesn’t discriminate. It knows no boundaries. Young, old, rich, poor, fat, thin, beautiful, ugly, popular, nerd, loved, lonely- depression doesn’t see a difference and affects all kinds of people.
Depressed people are not always the lonely loser eating lunch alone. They are also the cheerleader smiling as she sobs inside. They are one of the boys playing basketball in the park. They are the Mother pushing a carriage down the street smiling at her baby, the Dad throwing balls to his son, the dancer whirling, the singer singing her songs, the blogger writing. The fact is, we can’t always tell if people are depressed or not just by looking at them . They are people, everywhere, just getting through the day however they can to get to the next day.
Robin Williams (as John Keating) said,
No matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world.
Words can hurt, but they can also heal. If you think you know someone who is depressed, just talk to them. Sometimes just one act of kindness can make all the difference to a person. There was a day when I was feeling like there was no way out of the abyss my life had become, and I was about to make a really stupid choice, one person noticed, checked up on me and helped me hang one for one more day. I’ll forever be thankful to that person.
Depression is an illness. It can be treated. I promise, and am proof that you CAN be happy again. But you need help. If you think someone is depressed and in a bad place, the best thing you can do it to talk to them, constantly and let them know that someone cares and is there. BUT ALSO, TELL SOMEONE ELSE, HELP THEM GET HELP. If you are depressed and feeling like there is no way out, please reach out to someone, anyone for help.
The National Suicide Prevention Hotline is 1-800- 273-8255.