Monthly Archives: June 2014

5 Reasons to Love 5 Seconds of Summer

The Australian pop-punk band, 5 Seconds of Summer, have taken the world by storm. However, they’ve already won over my heart. I have been a fan for a long time, but their global successful has my fan-girl heart swelling.

The boys have been toured with One Direction last year, and are joining them again this year during part of the Where We Are tour. I saw them at their headline show in Wallingford, Connecticut, and fell even deeper for the band. There are so many reasons to love this band.

1. Their Music     One reason to love 5SOS is their music!(Duh). The songs they sing, such as She Looks So Perfect, Don’t Stop, Good Girls, etc., automatically put you in a good mood when you listen to them. You want to dance around and sing the lyrics at the top of your lungs. ( I know I do when there isn’t anyone home.) They have a punk/rock vibe to most of their songs. Everyone in the band is amazingly talented with vocals, and the instruments they play. Other songs they have preformed, such as Wherever You Are, Beside You, and Amnesia are heartfelt, and can cause tears. They’re incredibly talented.

2. Their Performances     If you’ve ever seen a 5SOS live performance, you’ll know that the entire place is electric. When I saw them, the entire theatre was buzzing with excitement. The boys have so much energy on stage, it’s incredible. Their energy filled the entire building. The whole band seems to be in their element when on stage. They cover every inch of the stage, jumping around, sharing their excitement. They’re passionate performers, losing themselves in their music.


 3.  The Members      Each member adds another reason to love 5 Seconds of Summer. The band has an amazing dynamic

Ashton Irwin, 19, is the drummer with dimples.


Michael Clifford, 18, is a guitarist with the hair of many colors.


Calum Hood, 18, is the bassist with a smile that could melt your heart.


and Luke Hemmings, 17, is a guitarist with amazing blue eyes, and the lip piercing.


While being attractive, that’s not all that draws people to this band. Each of their personalities makes the band lovable. Ashton is a bit dorky, but in a cute way, with his different types of laughs. Michael is sarcastic and a bit sassy, and has a bit of attitude, but overall is such a sweet person. Calum is easygoing and fun, and seems like an absolute sweetheart. Luke is a bit quiet, but his slight awkwardness is endearing. All of the boys are hilarious. Every interview and performance you see of them is sure to make you laugh.

4. They’re Themselves      5 Seconds of Summer don’t seem to try to fit the mold, and they embrace their quirks. They seem like the type of guys you want to be friends with. They look like they have a lot of fun together, and seem to be best friends. They have a very chill aura around them. The boys don’t try to hide who they are.  It seems as if you know them, just by watching videos and reading their daily tweets. It’s easy to feel connected to them, even if you’ve never met them.

5. Support     One of the best things about 5 Seconds of Summer, is that the band is extremely supportive of their fans, and vise-versa. The band often voices about how much they love their fans and how much they appreciate their support. In fact, they call their fandom a family, the 5SOS Fam. They tweet their fans, and remind them that they’re loved, and that they’re beautiful. They remind them that someone out there does care about them.  The 5SOS Fam is incredibly supportive of each other, and help each other get through tough things together. It’s amazing to hear stories of how music has saved lives, and this band is definitely a contributor to that.


Have you heard 5SOS’s songs?   Do you have a favorite band member?

That Time I Didn’t Meet Demi Lovato

Last week,  Demi Lovato played a concert in New York City. as part of the Summer Concert Series for Good Morning America.  I really, REALLY wanted to interview her for my blog. I wrote to everyone a lot of people at GMA asking them to help me  get just a few minutes with her so I could  tell her my story and tell her how inspiring she is and how she helped save my life.  In the darkest moments, when I wanted to die, sometimes singing her songs were what kept me going for just one more night.   I thought that if I met her, it would be amazing and I’d be able to share with her my plans on stopping bullying.

How if everyone would just #BeBrave, bullying would end.


I didn’t get to meet Demi. I never got to share with her how she helped me Stay Strong or tell her my story.  I was disappointed, but then something amazing happened.   I made hundreds of new friends camped out in Central Park waiting for a chance to hear Demi perform.  I got there about  1:30 am, and was about 200th in line.  Standing in that line,  I started talking to people, and we started sharing stories.


The stories they shared are not mine to tell, but what I can tell you is  that we all had something in common.  We all were, at some point, lost, and needing to find strength and hope.  We shared a certain kind of frailness, yet extreme strength, that comes with  being broken and then put back together.  We were not only together to hear our hero Demi sing, but also to celebrate: We WERE strong and we made it through! We were ALL Warriors.

We are our own heroes.


I thought that meeting Demi is what was important. I was wrong.  The people I met were the most important.  The stories we shared were important. What I found was even more important: community.  I think I got a lot more out sitting on a sidewalk in Central Park, huddled together with new friends, avoiding the stinky port-a-john, laughing and singing, sharing strength and hope and bravery.  So, Amanda, Paige, Roberta, Nicole, Jenn, Sam, Alana, and everyone else who sat in line to see our hero,  what we really did is reinforce:


We can all, together and separately, share what we have with others who need it. The simplest way is to #BeBrave and stand up for ourselves and others, and for what we know: Bullying is wrong, depression is real, self-harm happens, but hope is there and we can ALL make it through.     IT GETS BETTER.

By the way, the concert was amazing and I was happy to see Demi (and was surprised by Cher Lloyd and Nicki Minaj ) but I left inspired and motivated by the people  I sat up all night with, waiting in line and sharing hope, strength and love.

Who inspires YOU?

Remember: #BeBrave: Stand up FOR the bullied, TO the bullies, and FOR yourself. If we ALL are brave, bullying will end.

Rules are Rules

Canadian 11th grader  Lindsey Stocker was in trouble. She wore shorts to school, and was told they were not appropriate. She was  asked to go home and change, or face suspension. She refused, and printed up posters instead. Her posters read:

Don’t humiliate her because she’s wearing shorts. It’s hot outside. Instead of shaming girls for their bodies, teach boys that girls are not sexual objects.

She right, guys need to know that girls bodies are NOT sexual objects, and they need to be able to control themselves.  It’s not, or shouldn’t be a girls job to dress so that a man will be able to ‘control themselves” upon seeing them. Men should have control of themselves, in all ways, period. As should woman.

But this isn’t about “shaming women.”  It’s about a high-school Junior who violated her school’s dress code simply because she didn’t want to follow the rules. The schools dress code, according to the Beaconsfield High School website says:

Students must dress appropriately for school. Ripped or torn clothing, short shorts or skirts, T-shirts with unacceptable language or promoting violence, drugs or sexual innuendo, halter tops/tube tops/bikini tops, visible underwear, low riding pants, excessive cleavage, outdoor clothing and attire exposing the midriff are all forbidden in school.

She was asked to change to comply with the rule, and she blatantly defied the administrators.  The rule never said she couldn’t wear shorts, but that she couldn’t wear “short-shorts”. I don’t see anywhere there that it states that these rules apply simply to women.  These rules apply to men, as well.   We have dress code rules at my school that are pretty much the same as her schools, except we have no tank top rule, and the shorts rule.  The shorts rule is that your shorts must at least be as long as your fingertips on your legs with your arms hanging down by your sides, for both girls and boys. I personally don’t find this sexist, or shaming, or anything other than a rule to be followed.


The outfits my friends and I are wearing for a party are perfectly appropriate – for a party. However, they wouldn’t be ok for school. Our schools rules are no shorts that violate the ‘shorts” rule, no tanks and no spaghetti straps. I’m fine with that.  I’m not being humiliated or harassed.  I’m just observing the rules.

High School is the training ground for adult life.  A real life with responsibilities that won’t won’t always consider your tender feelings when rules are made. Many jobs have dress codes, and even uniforms and if you don’t  comply, you lose your job.  Let’s face it, High School is also a place where you stretch your wings, and try to find your place.  Being asked to follow rules is not grounding you, its providing you with the guidelines for a successful flight.

It’s not shaming, or bullying, or harassment if you are asked and expected to follow rules. In this case, the school is asking all students to dress with respect and  in a manner in which the school would like to portray itself.  High school is not just a place where you learn how to be yourself, it’s a place where you learn to fit in society and like it or not, society has rules. Being asked to follow rules isn’t harassment. It’s life.