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Monthly Archives: October 2013
Ever since I shared My Story, I felt like I want to do something, something MORE. I want to use Social Media for something different- not the normal way you think about SOCIAL MEDIA and BULLYING. I want to host a twitter chat about BULLYING- and what we can do about it.
My Mom is also a blogger and a lot of her friends have “Twitter Chats” where they all get together online and talk about a particular thing with a thing for a while. (Like a hangout) You use a hashtag, in this case, #BeBrave, to unify everyone together, and make it easy to follow everyone in the thread. I thought it would be a GREAT way to get a bunch of people together to talk about bullying. Teens, and adults. You see, we know all the crap we see on social media, and yes, Twitter is a BIG part of it. Adults want to know how to help. We ALL need to work together to become aware of this epidemic that is bullying. And yeah, I want to share my #BeBrave hashtag.
- #BeBrave enough to stand UP TO BULLIES.
- #BeBrave enough to stand up FOR YOURSELF
- #BeBrave enough to stand up FOR OTHERS.
Often in Twitter Chats there are prizes, usually hosted by sponsors. There is no sponsor, only me, BUT, there are prizes. I am providing them myself with the money I earned from shooting a Sweet 16. I’m giving away 3 $15 gift cards to either Itunes, or Amazon.com and the GRAND prize will be a $25 gift card and a $25 donation in your name to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. So you can win, and you can give. SEE the linky below:
My Mom, Wendy of
@weightsover, and my friends Pauline of @GirlBodyPride and Brett Martin, @brettbmartin, a friend who is donating her time to help us run this chat. (she knows ALL about twitter chats and offered to help!) You need to follow them to be part of the chat.
Pauline is giving away a few awesome prizes, too! including 2 copies of her Book, a bracelet from Girl, Body, Pride,and a 30 minute session of awesomeness that is her consultations.
If you want to send out a shout out to Ellen DeGeneres so that she might pop in, that would be pretty awesome, too. Please tweet:
*** in case you didn’t know, Ellen DeGenres is my hero- She stands up to bullies and for the bullied- and I want to be just like her when I grow up- plus I really think she can help spread the message of “IT WILL GET BETTER****
or you can tweet: Let’s talk about #bullying and how to #BeBrave with @loser_gurls Oct 29th 8est http://allydelmonte.com/?p=378
the URL is your full twitter: www.twitter.com/@loser_gurls Name is your twitter handle = @loser_gurls, and your email is just to contact you in case you win a prize.
This is why I am hosting the chat: SO everyone knows it GETS BETTER!
If you are interested in donating prizes for this giveaway, please fill out THIS FORM and send it back to email@example.com
Last week, someone I love very much tried to kill themself. I know all too well the feeling of hopelessness and anguish that can bring you to that point. When you are surrounded by so much NOTHING that the only one way out= to become nothing.
Just as I know now, oh so importantly, that IT GETS BETTER. It does.
I decided now is the time to share MY story, my whole story. About how I was bullied- not just in High School, or Middle School, but how it started in 2nd grade. I was 8. I was different- in my case, I was overweight. It never mattered that I was sick, and it caused me to gain weight, all people saw was my body. They didn’t see me. I learned from age 8 that I was worthless. I learned how to smile through tears. I learned how to hide pain. I learned how to accept shards of friendship becasue I thought it was all I was deserving of. It only got worse. Much worse.
Why? Because I am fat. I have been fat since I was small because my thyroid went crazy and for reasons I couldn’t have helped, I gained a lot of weight. I started hiding behind it because it was me. I was the fat girl, and I was worthless. Then as I got older I got other sicknesses that helped me gain weight. Depression did the rest.
Here is my story:
I came close to ending my life simply because other people didn’t like what they saw, and I let them make me a victim. I let my self doubt, and yes, even self hatred spiral me into a pit I nearly didn’t crawl out of.
But, I did crawl out of it.
I made a decision that I was worthy, I was special, I was beautiful. I deserve to be happy, and I am going to be. I choose to believe in ME. Not what others see or think or say. I want to lose weight, sure. But even if I don’t lose a pound, I am beautiful. I am worthy. I am not a size or a number on a scale. I am so much more than that.
And I want to be there, to SHOUT TO EACH AND EVERY OTHER PERSON who is being told they are worthless, pathetic, losers that You are NOT. You are a worthy, wonderful gift to this earth and maybe they don’t see it, hell, maybe even YOU don’t see it, but you are! Love yourself. YOU deserve it. and if no one else can see it, too bad.
Find someone who does see who you are and how wonderful you are and believe them when they tell you. Find an ally. Be an ally to others. Share our strength. Share positive words and smiles. Believe with everything you are that everyone is beautiful and had worth.