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Monthly Archives: May 2013
When I was in 8th grade someone told me that I was overweight, I was worthless, and therefore, I should go kill myself.
I wanted to. But I didn’t.
It took a little time, but I realized that I am worth so much more than numbers on a scale, or the size of my clothes. At that time my size was directly tied to how I felt about myself and how others perceived me. The way that people think about people who are overweight is wrong.
People think that overweight people are sad, pathetic, lazy, piggy, greedy, dirty, whorey, unpopular,worthless pieces of shit. I know, because I’ve been called every single one of these things with nothing to go on other than my physical appearance. But I’m NOT. I am a kind, funny, caring, giving, honest and loyal friend who will do anything for one of my friends. I am nothing special. I am just ME. I am the same as everyone else. My size doesn’t dictate my worth. My VALUE isn’t what clothes I wear. I am not BRANDED a success or a failure by what covers my body.
Abercrombie and Fitch’s COE, Mike Jeffries has made some comments about how he feels about fat people and their value.
“Abercrombie is only interested in people with washboard stomachs who look like they’re about to jump on a surfboard”
“In every school there are the cool and popular kids, and then there are the not-so-cool kids. Candidly, we go after the cool kids,” .
“We go after the attractive all-American kid with a great attitude and a lot of friends. A lot of people don’t belong [in our clothes], and they can’t belong.”
“I don’t want our core customers to see people who aren’t as hot as them wearing our clothing.”
At first this made me really mad, then it had me frustrated, then sad. Really, Mr. Jeffries? We have enough bullying going on these days without you calling out the overweight kids names. Once upon a time I wanted A&F clothing so badly. I wanted to fit in, to be the same. I realized I wasn’t the same. I was different. It’s not the clothes that make you who you are. Sure, you want to look nice and dress well, but to be exclusionary is just another way to promote bullying and hatred. It’s racisms for the lack of a better word. How would it be if the quote was:
“Abercrombie is only interested in people with blond hair and blue eyes and white skin who look like they’re about to jump on a surfboard”
“We go after the attractive all-American STRAIGHT kid with a great attitude and a lot of STRAIGHT friends. A lot of GAY people don’t belong [in our clothes], and they can’t belong.”
Well, all hell would be breaking loose and it should. He would be called a bigoted, racist bully is. The thing is, he is. Just in a different way. Fat, skinny, blond, brunette, big nose, knobby knees, size 10, size 24, athletic, pimply, clear skin, brainy, nerd, popular. Why is is important? Why is it a quantified?
WE ALL MATTER.
WE ALL HAVE WORTH.
It’s not tied into being able to buy a shirt from ONE store that tells kids that some are better than others because of their size. . We all have so much to offer other than what number we wear.
I like my shirt better, anyway. I don’t care what size it is. It’s the truth.