4 Things to Know About Bullying

There has been more bullying in the news recently.  Bullying hasn’t gone away, it has just been buried under other news.  I recently read of a 10 year old girl, Ashawnty Davis, who hanged herself because she had been bullied!  10 YEARS OLD.  This beautiful girl was bullied until she thought there was no way out but to die.  We must get a handle on bullying. 

I just read these words from Pastor Elijah Hollis   who is working to make  his city, Philadelphia a better place.  I love hat he took on bullying and  wants to help.  Here is what he had to say, and my take on it.

If you are bullied, than you are not alone! There are millions of individuals being bullied everyday! We can’t stop bullying from happening but we can learn how to handle it when it happens.

  1. It’s not me, it’s you. One thing to keep in mind is that bullying almost never has anything to do with you but actually has everything to do with the pain that the person bullying is feeling on the inside. Remember that hurt people hurt people, so when someone is hurting someone, it usually means that that person has been hurt by someone or something in their life and they feel like the solution is taking it out on someone else. We know this doesn’t help take away the pain, but understanding this truth can help us realize that its almost never about us but actually the person doing to bullying. I think that bullying comes from a place of power, as well.  When someone  is scared of losing something they will do anything to keep it, even being mean and bullying someone else.  You can’t stop the person’s pain, but you can try and get yourself out of the situation. .
  2. Boldness speaks the loudest. Now you have to know that boldness doesn’t mean that you have no fear, but it does mean that you do the hard thing in the middle of having fear. Sometimes a simple statement like “Stop, NOW!” can make the difference. Other times letting the bully know that you are not afraid of getting an adult involved can be helpful as well. Remember that bullying usually keeps up when it is not addressed, and ignoring bullying is the worst thing you could do. Violence is never the answer but standing up IS! So stand up and be heard! I want to agree with him on this, but sometimes,  even when you do speak up, no action is taken.  If you tell an adult and they  say there is nothing they can do, tell another adult.  I know it sucks.  I told  my teachers I was being bullied, and they said if they didn’t see it, there was nothing they could do about it.  I wish I had told my Mom, then she would have told  the Principal or even gone to the Resource Officer or School Board.  You have a right to be safe from bullying! Keep talking until someone does something!
  3. Teamwork makes the dream work. Getting a team around you that knows whats going on can be one of the most powerful ways to stop bullying! We were meant to do life together so get a few trusted friends and adults who can help you stand up against bullying! Getting adults involved is a quick way to bring resolution to the situation. Having a game plan for when the bullying takes place can help you take care of the situation quickly. Also staying with your crew can help protect against bullying all together. THIS!   I used to be very confident until I was bullied to the point of my own suicide attempt. I am still sometimes nervous to walk into a crowd of kids my age that I do not know.  When I go places that I know I am going to be anxious, I bring friends so that  I feel more comfortable. 
  4. Forgiveness stops YOU from becoming a bully. Don’t let what the bully did to you become a hurt that makes you into the person you dislike. If we don’t learn how to forgive one another when we get hurt, we ourselves will be in the same emotional prison that our bully is in. Believe it or not, that hurt will grow into bitterness and that bitterness into action. So take care of your heart as top priority and learn how to forgive those that hurt you! This is the thing that I feel is most important. I have forgiven the who bullied me.  Many of them have come up to me and apologized.I have even become sort of a mentor for the girl who was the catalyst for it all.  It was my way of taking control and regaining power over my life.  Don’t be mistaken, forgiveness doesn’t mean that you forget, but  you d release the power it had over you. 

Bullying is something that is real and happens every day, and even though you can’t stop it from happening, you can learn how to deal with it so that it doesn’t affect you. You are only affected by the things you allow to affect you.

 

 


Easy Ways To Eat Humanely

Lots of my friends are vegetarian an even vegan,  and I even though I eat meat, I care, like they do about animals being treated humanely.  Our family works hard to make smart choices and buy food that is humanely raised. Living in  the country surrounded by local small farms makes it easier for me, but you don’t have to live rural to eat humanely. You do, however, need to know how to figure out what IS humanely raised! It’s not as easy as you’d think!
I was glad to see that the ASPCA isn’t just about dogs and cats. They hey also focus on farm animal welfare, working to improve conditions on factory farms and create a more sustainable and healthy food system.
They have all kinds of resources to help you on their website to choose humanely raised foods, like:
 
I want to be sure that the food that I eat is raised in a way that I can support. I’m glad that there are resources that I can use to help us while shopping to make kind choices.  Do you know where you food comes from and how it was raised?    Have you ever explore your food origins?  Let me know in the comments!

Using GoodWill To Make The Holidays Affordable And Bright

I am excited to be partnering with Goodwill to help show ways to make the Holidays brighter, save money, and  support my community. Goodwill reimbursed my costs for shopping and craft supplies

Like many teens, I’m on a super strict budget, but I have  a list of people that I want to give gifts to for the Holidays.  I have a very good friend who lives all the way across the country but we are connected through our love of One Direction- specifically Harry Styles. I wanted to give her something stylish and personal, so I decided to make it, and I headed to Goodwill to get what I needed. I needed a perfect jacket!

I’ve been buying clothing from thrift stores and remaking them into cool clothing for myself for a while, so I knew what to look for. I snagged the PERFECT Denim jacket and headed home to making it awesome with some fabric paints, stencils and my creativity!

I got a great jacket for only $12.00- a fraction of the cost at a store!   Using stencils made it so much easier!

I love the way the jacket turned out, and I know that she will, too!

Ally Del Monte

I also love that while I saved money buying what I need for gifts at Goodwill, I’m also supporting their mission to give back to the community. That’s why I love shopping at my local Goodwill store this time of year – because I know I can find a good bargain, and also support a great cause. Did you know that 87 cents on the dollar of every purchase from a Goodwill goes towards local job training opportunities? It’s easy to find your local store- just go to the Goodwill Website.  You never know what treasures you will find there, but you can be confident you’ll be helping your local community! 

Here are some things to know about Goodwill:

  • Goodwill provides job preparation, skills training, education assistance and support services to millions of people each year who are facing challenges to finding employment.
  •  Every 23 seconds, someone gets a job through the help of Goodwill.
  •  Goodwill is an entrepreneurial leader, environmental pioneer and social innovator of the “reduce, reuse, repurpose” practice. Through its entrepreneurial business model of collecting and selling donated goods, Goodwill helps communities extend the life of usable items in environmentally sound ways.
  • ·Goodwill functions as a social enterprise by creating 25 jobs per brick-and-mortar store, generating essential revenue for mission services, and providing a direct solution for donors and communities to the issue of sustainability regarding unwanted goods.

I know that she’s going to love the jacket and she’s going to love that I made it just for her.  I love that I’m able to give her something that is perfect for her-  while helping Goodwill help others in my community.

Do YOU have someone special that you want to make something personal for this holiday season?  Tell me about it in the comments!